What you want next
- How do you know if someone is right for you this time?At this stage, right usually looks less like fireworks and more like fit: you can be yourself, your independence and family are respected, and the two of you can talk plainly about togetherness, money and where you each live.
- Should I stay after they cheated?Stay only if they fully own it, end it and do the repair work, and only if the relationship you'd be repairing is one you'd choose again. In your 50s, without a first marriage's shared mortgage or young kids holding things in place, you have more freedom to decide that honestly.